At the memorial service we will have a memory table for everyone to share, so please, feel free to bring anything that moves you. =) See you Saturday!
Jay always said that you never know what someone has to teach you, you just have to be open to receive.
This morning, at 3:30AM, he offered us the last lesson that he could teach; the journey through pain and tears paved with love and compassion. The path that is not traveled alone, but instead overflowing with family and loved ones that are by ones side the whole way saying, “It’s all good”.
In the simplest form, the lesson was merely to see one another’s heart and walk hand in hand.
Jay’s last month at home with family and close friends, with the help from the local Visiting Nurses Association, was a blessing. In his final month he was able to pour over the entire Bro family history albums and reminisce with his brothers Mel and Del. He had the opportunity to express all of his final wishes and share his love with his wife and children. Jay never missed an opportunity to make the people around him smile, including the visiting nurses. His uncanny ability to relate and connect with others was shone through as people he has touched came forth to express their gratitude for having Jay in their life.
In loving memory of Jay Bro, the family graciously invites you to join a celebration of his life Saturday, July 19th at the N. Salinas Baptist Church, 381 San Juan Grade Rd. at 3 PM followed by a light meal. PLEASE, feel free to bring photos or memorabilia to share on the table of memories.
Jay requested that he be cremated and buried at the Queen of Heaven 18200 Damian Way, Salinas, Ca. 93907. Internment services are being conducted by Struve and Laporte Funeral Chapel. Private graveside services will be held for immediate family.
To the kindhearted, supportive loved ones of Jay Bro,
Things are not looking positive and we are all taking on the difficult challenge of preparing for Jay’s passage from this life.
Jay has decided that he does not want any more fuss to be made to combat the ever growing effects of the cancer taking over his body, the outcome will remain the same. And so, Jay will be at home until he passes, with his family by his side.
For personal privacy reasons, I will not go into the details of his condition. Jay would like to remain a strong figure in our minds. We, the family, ask that visitors be kept to a minimum so that we may focus on Jay’s comfort. Information on when he passes and the following ceremonies will be posted here if you are not part of the phone tree. There will also be an obituary in the paper.
Donations to aid the family in the costly burdens of a two year battle can be made to Jay Bro’s cancer treatment fund, if you see fit. Jay asks that no donations be made to the Cancer Society. He strongly disagrees with the medical professions standard procedure.
Jay has had a tough battle,
and now we are at a stand still.
After two months with Dr. Forysthe in Reno, Jay returned to Salinas and attempted to continue the battle. He started chemo and then as a result, had a heart attack. We went to emergency and they put another stent in his heart. Once he healed, we started another round of chemo which resulted in kidney failure. Both kidneys were clogged and Jay ballooned up, full of toxins. The emergency team poked tubes in through his back and drained his kidneys. One kidney failed for life, the other had a stent put in to let it continue to flow to the bladder. One week later he was released from the hospital.
Since all of the fiasco, Jay has been trying to enjoy life and the beauty of nature while slowing down. He has been going to the beach frequently for sunsets on our beautiful Monterey Bay, and for walks around the park around the corner from the house. Being the social butterfly that he is, he stops in to visit his old coworkers at the body shop and at the cafes. This time of fluctuation and waiting has been a blessing for Jay as he has taken the opportunity to enjoy his family and friends and the lovely central coast California.
“Go confidently in the directions of your dreams.
Live the life you’ve imagined.”
No one imagines being diagnosed with cancer. But when you are, it changes your life path and your journey to your dreams. When Jay was diagnosed with stage 4 bladder cancer, he reevaluated his direction and turned his efforts toward fighting for his life. Jay has always been a man to take on the challenge of fixing ANYTHING that he comes across that is broken. From his daughters ever fumbling cars, to his neighbors ancient computer. This time, the challenge lies in his own body.
We were all relieved to hear that Jay decided on a treatment plan with Dr. Forsythe. The treatment included an alternative integrative approach to health care that involved supplements, dietary evaluations, blood type consideration chemo and also psychological assistance. All of the staff has proven to be heaven sent, and a blessing to our family. Consequently, it seems that they have felt the same about having Jay in their office. “He is our star patient”. “Jay makes everyone smile”. “If only all our patients have such a great attitude like Jay”.
While everything seemed to have been moving along in a good direction, the cost has become quite a burden to our family. Because Dr. Forsythe’s protocol is not considered “standard procedure” by the American Medical Association, his insurance is not covering the costs accumulated. Seeing as how we are only partially through this battle. We have decided to surrender to donations, and every cent helps.
We, the family, will be doing what we can to raise the $40,000 already due to support Jay. He has always given all of the help he could to us, his community, his church and friends. If you feel that you can lend a helping hand, it would be more than appreciated, and if you cannot, keep us in your hearts and prayers.